The other day I heard the singer of this song interviewed on the radio. He explained that his new song is about falling in love again and how we have the power in our relationships to "rekindle" what we had in the beginning. Here is the song:
Let's pretend baby
that you've just met me
and I've never seen you before
I'll tell all my friends
that I think you're staring
And you say the same
We'll dance around it all night
and then I'll follow you outside
And try to open up my mouth
and nothing comes out right
And I wanna fall in love with you again
I don't have to try
It's so easy who needs to pretend
It's so funny let's just think about it honey
Let's just fall in love again
I'll call you in three days
Not too soon not too late
And I'll ask your roommate if you're home
You'll call me on Thursday
And we'll hang out all day
Then fall asleep on the phone
I'll hold your hand when we drive
And we'll lose track of all the time
And we'll tell everyone that we ain't never felt so alive
We'll fall disgustingly fast
And we'll stop hanging out with friends
And they'll be so offended
Oh ooh oh
Let's just fall in love again
So let's just fall in love again
I chuckled through the song since my wonderful wife (the keeper of this blog) and I are basically guilty of everything this song describes as "Falling in Love." It's a fun song and catchy, but as I got to thinking about it, I started to ask myself, would I really want to go back to the days of awkwardness, exploration, and uncertainty over the real intimacy my wife and I have today? It did not take me long to decide.
I think in our culture, we have stopped celebrating love and have started focusing our celebration on a subset of love based around the intense feeling felt with the newness of a new person. Perhaps this is why so many of our marriages end in affairs. As a culture we have been told to expect that amazing take-over-every-thought-in-your-mind feeling all the time. If that is lost then we must "fall in love again." How unfortunate because there is nothing as powerful and fulfilling as knowing and being so fully known as what comes with long enduring marriage.
The parallel spiritually is obvious. When we first come to Christ, everything is new. Everything is exciting. Spiritual truths seem to enthrall us each day. Some folks live for that feeling. They pursue new ways to create that spiritual high and start to miss the power in coming into deeper knowledge of the One who knows them completely.
In marriage and in Christ, falling in love does not look like this song would allude to. Instead it should look like two folks, so in tune with one another that they act and think alike. They feel completely at peace in each others' company. There is no need for a facade. There is no need to try to impress. There is no fear. There is simply perfect Love.
My prayer is that the Lord help will me to grow in my "perfect love" of Him and my wife. If anything my cry is that I could fall deeper in love with the Lord again!